Intestinal Obstruction

A good friend of mine, Madd, once made a quite 'disturbing' comment while we were discussing a topic on our Dudas & Jandas (EXes...). I refused to agree when he claimed that we are who we are today because of our Dudas or Jandas. He used himself as an example... He said he is a better man now, no longer MCP( errr..errr...) and more 'settled' in a way. Ye ke? I mean aren't we supposed to be ourself no matter what. If there is anything need to be 'altered', and has been 'altered', I dont think I owe any gratitudes to any of my Dudas. EXCEPT for one. The one I dated years ago back in my 3rd and final year in UNI. At that time I was making a big deal when he didnt call me on a daily basis. You know what he told me? "I don't even call my mum on a daily basis and that doesnt mean that I love her less."
Ish...it doesnt make sense at that time because I do call my mum on a daily basis, but again Mars and Venus...that is a different case. But come to think of it, himself and I, we dont call each other on the phone 18 times a day. Even when courting, I dont recall any conversation that last more than 20 minutes (terer la tu for muda mudi bercinta).

Ok back to the topic, at least that is one thing that I could recall as being a useful tips, from a Duda, but again it didnt change me to be a better girl. Do we change for love, better or worst?
Are we a better person now because of all our experiences with our Exes?

Hmm...let me see. The list is quite long (erhemmm...) but let me just pick one. Ok, I used to go out with this banker who work in the same building with me. I can't even remember why I dated him in the first place (2 month kot...) but what I can remember, I was embarassed to admit to people that I was dating him. Why? I don't know why...untill now. But I could remember my dad's reaction when he accidently saw the guy with me, he said, "Thats the best you could do?" Hahaha as if la I am Zetta Jones look a like. But he was not referring to quality. I think deep inside he knows that something is wrong somewhere. How I 'abandoned' him? One day, we went out for lunch in my car, and I just cant stand him any longer, so I sent him back to his car and speed off. No goodbyes.
What did I learn from there? I dont know. Not to trust a banker?

There are few others whom I enjoyed their company but find it difficult to acknowledge their existant.(and dont forget, some refused to acknowledge MY existant...hehe) BUT...
when I finally met HIMSELF... omg I was so proud that he is my partner that I could acknowledge and describe him in soooo many ways. I always introduce him as my boyfriend, partner in crime, my housemate, the guy I am living with...bla bla bla...And I always get so excited when the need arised for me to introduce him.

I don't think I am a better person now (am I?) because of my past relationship, but I have to admit that it does influence how I perceive life now (Madd, that is totally a different thing, ok?). BUT I am changing now...To adapt with my present relationship. Why? Because he is the ONE and I will change and adapt to make the relationship better and better...

p/s ACTUALLY, there is no relationship between the TITLE and entry. I just like the sound of the title. It was a topic discussed by medic students in the class that I was observing yesterday. Sorry for any inconviniences.